Our Words Build and They Destroy

Our Words Build and They Destroy

By Gertrude Flynn-White -September 16, 2019

“The tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison…” (James 3:8 KJV)

The Bible tells us that man can tame nearly every beast but cannot tame the tongue. The Scripture also tells us that “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks”. Many people do not realize that it is what is in their heart that comes out of their mouths. If ones heart is pure, his thoughts will be pure and he will speak kind words. Likewise, if he has evil intentions, his words will be ruthless.

People have become so careless in how they relate to others verbally or written. Some have used social media platforms to speak their mind in hurling insults and threats at others. When their thoughts become words, they create anxiety, fear, frustration and uncertainty about the impact their imminent actions will have on others.

The book of Proverbs offers so much guidance in the way we speak. Our tongue is a very powerful tool because it has the power of life and death. It can either build or destroy. Much of the chaos and division that exist in our society result from our choice of words and when we speak them.

Words comfort and heal but they can injury and inflict pain. The Scripture tells us in Proverbs 15:4, that gentle words bring life and health, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit. It also reminds us that kind words are like honey sweet to the soul and healthy for the body” (Prov. 16:24).

Kind words generate positive energy fields and people are usually more responsive to them. They heal, uplift, encourage and motivate. They stimulate joy, happiness and excitement. Kind words are beneficial to the person speaking as well as the person spoken to. They stimulate production, cost you little or nothing and accomplish much.

We should choose when to speak and be selective in the words we use as words spoken at the right time are like golden apples set in silver. They give us satisfaction and peace of mind during confusion and conflict.

“Careless words stab like a sword.” (Prov. 12:18 NCV) Unkind words generate negative energy fields. They maim, hurt, destroy and demotivate. They cause strife, instigate a reign of terror, and incite others to act irrationally.

Words once spoken cannot be taken back. They are gone with the wind. They are often forgiven but not forgotten. So let’s think before we speak and taste our words before we spit them out. We should endeavour to use wisdom when we speak as our words can be life-giving water, refreshing as a bubbling brook. Let us always think before we speak and let our words encourage or motivate others.