How to Conquer Loneliness.

How to Conquer Loneliness                                                                                                                         By Gertrude Flynn-White

How do you cope with loneliness?

Life’s journey is paved with opportunities and success. As we embark on this journey of accomplishing our daily tasks and trying to achieve our goals, one of our greatest challenges is the fear of being alone. When we fail to overcome this fear, we often find ourselves struggling with the “valley experience,” loneliness. Loneliness can be likened to a pothole on our journey. We can either avoid it or fall into it because we either become unaware of its existence or ignore the consequences.

Loneliness is not a condition that we suddenly wake up and find ourselves in. Instead, it is a series of choices that we make along the way without realizing that one day we will have to deal with their consequences. We were never meant to take this journey through life alone but our emotions often contribute to breakdown in our relationship or interaction with others resulting in separation, heartbreak, neglect or desertion. When we are confronted with loneliness, our ego usually *prevents us from seeking help or the necessary support needed to navigate out of this situation.

Many persons struggle with loneliness because they fail in their personal and professional lives. Emotional Intelligence is a powerful component in our personal and professional relationships. According to Psychology Today, “Emotional Intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others.” Most organizations are now ensuring that potential employees exhibit qualities of high Emotional Intelligence. In an article, “How to Hire the Best”, John Rampton states, “If you want to know if you have a high Emotional Intelligence (EI) or want to work on strengthening your EI disorder to succeed in life and your career, here are ten qualities that people with high EI all share:

1. They’re not perfectionists. People wih high EI realize that perfection doesn’t exist and push forward. If they make a mistake, they’ll make adjustments and learn from it.

2. They know how to balance work and play. People with high EI know when it’s time to work and when it’s time to play.

3. They embrace change. Instead of dreading change, EI people realize that change is a part of life. Being afraid of change hinders success, so they adapt to the changes around them and always have a plan in place should any sort of change occur.

4. They don’t get easily distracted. People with high EI have the ability to pay attention to the task at hand and aren’t easily distracted by their surroundings, such as text or random thought.

5. They’re emphatic. Being able to relate to others, show compassion, and take time to help someone are all crucial components of EI.

6. They know their strengths and weaknesses. EI people know what they’re good at and what they’re not so great at.

7. They’re self-motivated. Being a real go-getter, even at a young age, is another quality possessed by people with EI.

8. They don’t dwell on the past. People with high EI don’t have the time to dwell in the past because they’re too busy contemplating the possibilities that tomorrow will bring.They don’t let past mistakes consume them with negativity.

9. They focus on the positive. Emotional Intelligence people would rather devote their time and energy to solving a problem. Instead of harping on the negative, they look at the positive and what they have control over.

10. They set boundaries. While people with high EI may seem like push-overs because of their politeness and compassion, they actually have the power to establish boundaries. (Published on Jan 14, 2016)

These ten qualities will help an individual develop self-awareness, self-management, relationship-management, empathy, and effective communication. These five attributes will help an individual ‘s personal development, interactive responses, and illuminate the feeling of loneliness.

Studie show that meditation also helps to alleviate the feeling of loneliness as it upgrades the nine key brain regions causing less stress, more happiness, more success, deeper sleep, easier learning, better memory, higher IQ and EQ. People who meditate often look much younger than their actual age and have better coping skills.

When an individual possesses all or most of these qualities, and adapt to best practices in interpersonal relationships, loneliness is not an option. Written by